Tuesday, November 15, 2011

When Trust is Gone

So many stories on the news this morning that I found infuriating. From Sandusky making excuses of showering with boys to a special needs child in Ohio being bullied by her teacher to the horrible shooting in Arizona last January. These news stories bring up so many different emotions and issues, but it got me thinking about one in particular: trust.


We trust those adults when we place children into their hands during the day when parents cannot be with them. We trust those in positions of power to protect and defend. We trust that people will make the right decision when given a choice between right and wrong.


What do we do when trust is broken?


The special needs child is 14 and this has been happening to her for four years where the school system said she was lying and they believed the teacher (until the parents wired the girl and recorded conversations). How does this affect the rest of her life?


The children with Sandusky have grown up, but each have been affected by what happened to them in so many different ways. How do they learn to trust again?


Trust is something we tend to give away freely instead of making people earn it. You get into a car with someone and instantly trust they know how to drive. You go to the bank to make a withdrawal and many times leave without counting your money, trusting it is all there.


It can be shattered in an instance when something traumatic occurs or it can be chipped away slowly in a marriage or a relationship when secrecy and deceit creep in. We've seen high profile marriages crumble under the media spotlight because of cheating, social media hook-ups - the dissolution of trust. It is something we all deal with (even those that state they 'trust no one') and something we need in order to feel secure. And when it is taken away, it can take a long time to regain.


I hope in the cases of these news stories those involved are able to get it back. I know from personal experience trust can be found again, but it is a fragile thing that must be nurtured and  held in high esteem so as not to find it broken again. (And I hope those on the end of the broken trust in these high profile cases above get everything they have coming to them to the full extent of the law. Yes...I'm THAT vindictive when it comes to hurting children.)




      

3 comments:

  1. "And I hope those on the end of the broken trust in these high profile cases above get everything they have coming to them to the full extent of the law. Yes...I'm THAT vindictive when it comes to hurting children." That's not vindictive. Vindictive is covering their naked bodies with honey and letting loose some fire ants. That's not only vindictive, but extremely satisfying.

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  2. I think I like your treatment even better.

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  3. I get very rattled whenever I hear about things happening to children. I didn't hear about the story you mentioned, but the fact that the poor kid was accused of lying just makes my blood boil. Good for the parents to wire her and record conversations! I definitely believe that if you want justice served sometimes you have to take the law into your own hands.

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