Tuesday, October 21, 2014

What to Do When You Don't Fit A Mold

Recently we were having some painting done in our home and the painter was having the "what do you do?" talk with my husband. It's easy for him. Radiation therapist.  All nice and neat in a tight box. The man asked about me and Anthony started saying I write books and directed a film. Then he stopped,  looked at me helplessly and said, "what DO you do?"
Everyone wants it spelled out so concisely. Business cards. LinkedIn. Even Facebook if you are creating a public page that requests your title or industry. They are looking for a one title job. But what if you can't be placed in a box?

Late night TV and talk shows are full of it. This actor has written a children’s book. That actress has a clothing line. This person opened a restaurant after doing reality TV. More and more, people can’t be labeled by one title.
It got me thinking. What am I?
Theater Manager
Business Owner
Not to mention husband, son, brother, uncle.
It's so hard in today's world to choose one thing. I think what all of those have in common is that I'm most happy if I'm creating something. Anything. That doesn't make me an inventor and yet that's what industry that would be assigned in one of those "please pick one" lists. It can be creating new programs at the theater I manage, creating a story for a book, a film, or encouraging someone else in their dream...but that feeling of creation is passion to me. Perhaps it's about what I'll leave behind. The mark I'll make. I'm not sure, but I know this: if I'm not learning something new...I'm dead. So I'm also a student! Not that I'd ever want to quote Taylor Swift, but I heard this on the radio as something she recently said and it made perfect sense. If you are the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. 

Disclaimer: I was watching Julie & Julia again this past weekend where her husband told her not to put a fight of theirs into her blog. Just to be clear, I checked with my husband first before outing him in this blog.


  1. Not to mention husband, son, brother, uncle, mentor, champion, colleague, friend, etc. etc.

    1. We ALL have many titles, don't we Stephen?!! :-)